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Over the last few weeks and months, I have been disturbed by the number of marriages that have crashed and burned among my friends. I guess I’m finally getting to the age where many of the people I know are bailing out on their marriages. I’m concerned and bothered by what is going on. The sad fact though, is that many of these people were active in their churches.

What type of example are we setting for people who are not followers of Christ? If we can’t even show and express love to our spouses, then how we can express the love of Christ to a lost and broken world? As Valentine’s Day approaches, I urge you to really spend some time examining your marriage. Ask the tough questions on how you can make it better, not how you can get out. If your marriage is struggling, then don’t give up! It can be restored to be something beautiful. You can have a new marriage with the woman you are already married to. When you show your wife how much you love her, an amazing thing happens. She will show you her respect and loyalty and love.

Here are some suggestions for the guys that are reading my blog: (look for a guest post from my wife tomorrow with tips for the girls)

  • Date your wife!! Your wife wants to feel pursued. She wants to know that you still care about her and not take her for granted. The dates don’t have to be expensive, but you do have to plan and put exert some effort. How much time do you spend planning church activities or planning projects at your job? You should put even more time and effort into your wife and family!
  • Watch the movie Fireproof with your wife. Seriously, this movie is powerful and I have personally seen it make a difference in many marriages that are struggling. It’s out on video so you don’t have any excuses. You can also visit Fireproof My Marriage for some great online resources to help your marriage.
  • Ephesians 5:33 tells us to love our wives. The greatest desire of a woman’s heart is to feel loved. We should always respond in love, even when we are hurt or feel disrespected. Guys, swallow your pride and take the lead to show love to your wife! It’s not about who wins an argument, it’s about putting her needs above your own.
  • Don’t neglect your time with God. Seriously, your love for your wife will be dramatically influenced by your love for God.
  • Deal with the “parasites” that are sucking the life out of your marriage. Get rid of the pornography and do whatever it takes to give your wife the love and time she deserves. If you need help battling an addiction, don’t be afraid to get it. James 5:16 tells us “Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.” Talk with your pastor or find a good friend that will hold you accountable. Set boundaries and take whatever measures are necessary to protect your marriage.
  • This may seem trivial, but it is very important. Spend time with your wife. Don’t spend all your time hanging out with other friends. Let her know how important she really is to you.
  • Discover your wife’s primary love language. Go to this site and take the 30 second quiz to discover what makes your wife feel loved. And then, commit time to showing her love in the way that it speaks most clearly to her.

My wife Jennifer will be posting some thoughts here on my blog for the ladies tomorrow.

And finally, Newspring Church is starting a new series titled “I Want a New Marriage” Check out the preview video below and then head over to their website at Newspring.cc to watch this week’s sermon. It’s going to be a great series, so check it out over the next few weeks.

I’m sitting at my computer tonight preparing for a funeral service tomorrow for my uncle who passed away this week. Death has a way of making you slow down and re-evaluate your life, especially when it is unexpected.

I’m using the three words below as an outline for my funeral message based on John 11:21-44.

Remember – Review – Refocus

We all need to spend time remembering the past, cherishing the memories that even death can’t take away. We need to spend time reviewing our own life. Where are our priorities? How are we living our life? Are we truly honoring God and leaving a legacy as a follower of Christ? And finally, we need to refocus, realigning our life with God’s will, and making sure that we are living life to the fullest, enjoying every moment. Life truly is a gift from God, don’t waste it.

Our family drove to watch some Christmas lights over in North Carolina tonight. High Country Lights is in Glade Springs, which is about 20 minutes from our house. They have a pretty cool setup, and the kids had fun. But while we were there, it started raining … and the temperature outside was about 26 degrees. We started back towards home and it was incredibly slick. I got to try out the anti-lock brakes on the van several times, but at least I managed to keep it between the lines. After about 30 minutes of driving about 5 miles an hour and sliding all over the road, we made it back to Jenni’s parents house. It was a fun trip, but next time I would prefer not trying to drive on a slip and slide road. Check out the videos below. (can you tell there’s not much to do around here?)


Coca-Cola Christmas from High Country Lights on Vimeo.


Transiberian Orchestra’s Christmas Eve Sarajevo from High Country Lights on Vimeo.

Just a Little Christmas Fun

December 21, 2008 — 2 Comments
Send your own ElfYourself eCards

I’m a country boy at heart

December 13, 2008 — 1 Comment

I traded in my ’98 Subaru Outback today on a ’04 Ford F-150. My Subaru has been good to me, but after 150,000 miles, it was time to say goodbye. Here are a few pics of the new truck. I think Jenni likes it better than I do. Now I just have to figure out how to hook up my ipod in this thing.

Drew’s Karate Moves

December 9, 2008 — Leave a comment

Be careful what you ask for …

Thankful Thursday

November 27, 2008 — Leave a comment

I’m going to borrow a tradition from my wife’s great blog. Jenni regularly posts her “thankful Thursday” list. On this great Thanksgiving Day, we all have so much to be thankful for. I’m thankful for …

  • My wonderful wife – I continue to fall deeper and deeper in love with her. She is an amazing woman. We started dating 18 years ago and our love is stronger than it has ever been.
  • My happy children – I had so much fun just playing with the kids today. They are all so special and fun to be around. Jenni and I are blessed to have such great kids.
  • My extended family – it was great having Jennifer’s mom and dad, my mom and dad, my brother and his wife, and Jennifer’s uncle all over for Thanksgiving dinner. It is great to have family that actually gets along and that enjoys getting together.
  • My church – I am blessed to have a church that actually believes we can make a huge difference in our city. I am thankful that they believe enough in me to actually pay me to do God’s work. I pray that God will continue to bless our efforts and help us as individuals to grow closer to Him.
  • My health – I am thankful that everyone in my family is healthy. For me personally, this has been the longest time period in several years that I have been clear of psoriasis. I’m truly praying that God will heal me and that I won’t have to go back on the biologic treatments again. But if that isn’t his will, then I’ve enjoyed a great spring and summer with no pain and problems.
  • Our Thanksgiving meal – I am embarrassed by how much good food we had today. From the juicy turkey, to the mashed potatoes made with cream and 2 sticks of butter, to the pumpkin cheesecake, to the great southern gravy and rolls – everything was over the top awesome. It did make me stop and think about how blessed and spoiled we are in this country.

I realize that we live an incredibly blessed and comfortable life. I pray that God will continue to disturb us and challenge us to live our life fully devoted to Him. To everyone reading this post, I pray that you had a great Thanksgiving and I ask that we all take time to thank our maker and creator for our many blessings.

Psalm 100
Shout with joy to the Lord, all the earth!
Worship the Lord with gladness.
Come before him, singing with joy.

Acknowledge that the Lord is God!
He made us, and we are his.
We are his people, the sheep of his pasture.

Enter his gates with thanksgiving;
go into his courts with praise.
Give thanks to him and praise his name.

For the Lord is good.
His unfailing love continues forever,
and his faithfulness continues to each generation.

Run Jenni, Run

October 15, 2008 — Leave a comment

I am super proud of my wife right now.  She has been running and training for a 5k that is coming up this weekend.  She is running in the Susan G. Komen Race for the cure in Charleston this Saturday.  What makes this race special for her is that she is running it with her mom who overcame breast cancer 20 years ago.  I am staying home with the kids, but I’ll be cheering her on from here.  Jennifer has never really ran much before, but she is really loving it now.  She ran 3 miles yesterday and she can definitely run further than me right now.  I’m going to have to step it up to keep up with her right now.  Check out her race page here, and her blog post about the race here,  and then please consider donating to such a great cause.

I was originally planning on running the Galax 5K this Saturday, but I will probably back out after seeing the weather forecast.  I haven’t been running much and it will be cold.  That’s a combination for me to stay home.  I do plan on taking Luke and Emma to run in the 1 mile fun run.  They may even talk me into joining them for that!

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